The people you choose to associate with are one of
the most important factors or influencers, which will determine how your life and
business will turn out in the future. These influencers will get to determine
whether you stick to your daily commitments to take action towards achieving
your goals or whether you remain permanently derailed and never apply yourself
to achieve anything meaningful in your life or business. If you continue to
choose a negative reference group to surround yourself with, you are condemning
yourself to failure and lifelong underachievement
The People Around you Influence you
Research has shown that your reference group or the
people that exert the most significant influence on your life, seem to be more
important than any other factor in determining your level of personal or business
success or failure. The most important thing to remember when exploring all
your associations is that the influence they exert on you is very subtle. They
do not apply huge pressure and force you in any specific direction. They gradually
and gently nudge you off course over time. If these influencers have a negative
effect on you, they will gradually nudge you to change your attitude,
philosophy, self-discipline and your commitment to take daily action will gradually
over time erode. The negative changes will be so subtle that you will not even
notice them.
The people you surround
yourself with, will affect all areas of your life:
- Your health will be a reflection of the combined average health enjoyed by those influencers.
- Your finances will also be the average of the people you choose to bring into your inner circle.
- The quality of the relationships you will enjoy can only ever mirror the relationships of the people that surround you.
- The attitude and philosophy you project to the world will be the combined attitude and philosophy of the people you hang around with the most.
Don’t you think that something as important as the
people you choose to surround your with, which will ultimately determine how
your life and business turn out in the future, deserves some special attention.
Action Idea: List the five people you spend
the most time around. Then add up the numbers, relating to their health,
quality of their relationships, finances, career, spiritual beliefs and
contribution to society and see if these people are contributing to the future
you desire or whether they are pulling you away from the success you desire.
Finances
First let us explore the finances of the people you
surround yourself with the most. To simplify the exercise I have chosen two
numbers, namely their level of income and their debt or asset value. You want
to ensure that the numbers of the people you surround yourself with, are
aligned with your picture of what you want to invite into your future or at
worst that they are on a similar success journey to your own..
If the people around you have an average income
level, which is way below where you want your income level to be, or they are
constantly in a debt spiral. Then these people are holding you back from
creating the future you desire. These people are standing between you and what
you want to achieve. Have the courage to take action to change this situation
or you will remain trapped in mediocrity.
Finances
Name
Income
Debt/Asset Value
1)
2)
3)
4)
5)
Total
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Average
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On the health front I once again chose two very
simple measurement criteria. How many time /week do they exercise and are they
in shape or overweight.
Health
Name
Exercise/week
In Shape/Overweight
1)
2)
3)
4)
5)
Total
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Average
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Attitude and Philosophy
Measuring attitude, philosophy is more difficult. I
therefore want you to examine the people around you and subjectively assess
these. Draw up a similar chart as above and see if these are aligned with where
you want your life to go.
What Now?
After carrying out the above exercise, you will
have a far better idea of the quality of people you surround yourself with on a
regular basis and whether they are the right people to support you on your
success journey. The challenge now is for you to make a few tough decisions
regarding these associations. If you are committed to reach, stretch and do
things, which you have never done before. If you are committed to break free
from your current life and create the life of a super achiever. You will need
to reappraise and re-prioritize the people you choose to surround yourself
with.
Make a Few Tough Decisions
Choose your inner circle very carefully because the
people you, choose to surround yourself with; will most certainly affect your
life. They will either nurture you, or keep you trapped in an un-fulfilling
life of mediocrity Have the courage to use the information you have gathered
and to remove the people from your life, who are holding you back.
Your success and level of achievement, depends on
you cutting the losers loose and striving to only including people, who
contribute to your on-going and sustainable success in your life and business.
The more time you invest with people that reflect the type of success you
desire, the sooner you will begin moving down the path of super achievement.
Author: Andrew Horton
Inspirational speakers
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